Recently I found myself standing in a baby section of a larger store with a completely blank mind. I had a flashback of feeling like a 'new mum'. Now this is not to insult new mums but when I was a mum to be the first time I was unsure of many things - that giant leap into the unknown.
So I was a little unprepared to have those feelings this time around. Surely all the hours put in with the almost 4 year old who was doing the hard sell for a packet of Smarties had ensured I would be facing this pregnancy with a degree of confidence.
Surely I am not the only second time mum who seems to have conveniently 'forgotten' what the newborn phase is like. More realistically it is just denial.
People have been amusing themselves by assuring us that this second baby, our son, will be "our horror child". How charming. Thankyou to all those people who have no filter on their mouths and speak before thinking. I hope they aren't right a part of my brain whispers.
Second time around I am certainly more confident with wrapping I could keep houdini in, breastfeeding we overcame so many possible obstacles in our 17 months of feeding the first time and bathing slippery little things.
However I am totally drawing a blank on numerous issue. One of these is clothes.
What size am I meant to be buying? How many? My brain seems incapable of computing which season we will be in when our son is 3-6 months, 6-9 months and then will I need 00000, 0000 or god forbid I have to deliver a baby which fits straight into 000. Referencing to Raya is no help as we had to fold newborn nappies in half and she was wearing premmie clothes.
All of a sudden there is a chink in the confidence armour. Raya was a great sleeper who came home from the SCN in a routine and 4 hourly feeds. This time hopefully we will be straight home and establishing our own routines. Is that the sound of another chink appearing.
Has anyone else felt like a first time mum, second time around?
Does it make you feel better that I felt like a first time mum the second, third and fourth times 'round?
ReplyDeleteI bought 0000 clothes to start with, though the second girl (#3) was an 8 pounder, so we ended up with needing to buy 00 clothes - luckily we had some from the 6 month birthday difference from the oldest girl!
Don't sweat the 6 and 9 month clothes, either. Wait until the little one is hatched, then you'll have a better idea on clothes etc.
*smiles* I also picked up a lot of bargains from Vinnies and the Salvos store - and all after my spawns and spawnettes were born.
You will be great! I had the "new mum" feeling second and third time around as well. I think it is just the nerves and anticipation. I agree with what Infoxicating Lady said about not worry yet about the 6 to 9 months clothes until he is born and you can get a better idea of his size. It is hard to go by what your first was like because Ella was 4.5kg and straight into 000. So when buying for my second i assumed the same and bought 000 but she was much smaller so mum had to run out and get some 0000s. I guess the good thing to remember is that you can always send your mum or hubby out for a few things in a certain size to get you through if you need to. I am like you though, i like to be prepared hehehe. Goodluck!! Cant wait to see pics when he arrives. xxxx
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